Mattocks: Do NC Domestic Violence Centers Encourage Women To Perjure Themselves?
By Noland Mattocks
Special to the Free Press
Not until the past two years did I realize how easy it is to destroy a man’s good name. From an early age, most of us are warned about obeying the law. Don’t speed, stay away from drugs, don’t associate with certain people, and my favorite, nothing good happens after midnight. I have recently learned you can be charged with breaking the law in your home by someone you love. And in a lot of cases, without any evidence to back it up.
Being a male in the 21st century brings about added threats to your freedom. If a relationship goes sour and your partner wants to cut the ties in a permanent way, the easiest thing she can do is claim domestic violence. And if there is a child involved, claim child abuse. Once a judge issues a restraining order, the accused is forced out of the home and cannot have any contact with the “victim” for a year. And it does not take much evidence for a sitting judge to issue the order. It’s as easy as an accusation by an apparently truthful woman and the judge will err on the side of caution. They do not want to see their name in the paper a week later if something goes horribly wrong.
The “victim” has a lot of help. Most domestic violence resource centers will advise the woman on how to fill out the paperwork. They will accompany her to court and sit beside her during the hearing. They coach her on what to say, and not to say. To be fair to domestic violence centers, they are not there to actually determine if abuse has occurred but to simply be a resource and to help the “victim(s)”.
Once the restraining order is in effect, if the man sends her a text message about wanting to see their child, he will promptly be arrested. If he shows up at the house wanting to see their child, he will promptly be arrested. If he happens to see her driving down the road and he waves at her, that is considered communicating and he will promptly be arrested. If at his hearing the “victim” testifies that “he looked at me in a way that caused me to fear for my life”, he will likely be found guilty of communicating threats.
One does not have to look far for examples. These situations happen daily in Davie and Forsyth Counties. Our county jails, on any given day, have numerous inmates on similar charges. For instance, in NC, if you are merely accused of domestic violence, you will probably be locked up for 48 hours. However, if you are arrested with a kilo of cocaine and have the money, you can be out in several hours.
Being falsely accused of domestic violence, or worse, rape, is not uncommon in NC. The biggest case in recent NC history and possibly the nation is the Duke Lacrosse case. Based on testimony from Crystal Mangum, three players were falsely accused and charged with rape, promptly arrested and were bonded out to await trial. Without any evidence, all three boys were immediately suspended from school and ordered to leave campus. A few days later, the Men’s Lacrosse coach was fired and their possible NCAA championship season was terminated.
Before a hearing or a trial by jury, and despite lack of evidence, these three young men were immediately found guilty by the mainstream media and The Group of 88 Duke tenured faculty and staff members who paid for ads in the Duke Chronicle with the following grandiose statement: “We’re turning up the volume in a moment when some of the most vulnerable among us are being asked to quiet down while we wait. To the students speaking individually and to the protestors making a collective noise, thank you for not waiting and for making yourself heard”. That’s right, don’t wait for the evidence, let’s go get them!
The Duke University professors who are teaching your children were never disciplined for their unfounded bias and abuse of their power and status towards innocent students!
Fast-forward a year and the three young men were found innocent by the prosecution. They were not found “not guilty”. They were declared innocent!
However, you can not google the names Dave Evans, Collin Finnerty, or Reade Seligmann and not find mentions of the alleged rape on the first few pages.
Did “The Group of 88” ever publicly admit their rush to judgement? Not a chance! And most are still at Duke teaching future leaders of our country!
These young men will forever be linked to the ugly scandal at Duke University in 2006. And for Crystal Mangum, who made up all the lies and allegations, she was never charged with perjury or filing a false police report. Therein lies the problem.
Until women who decide to lie and file false reports, who drain precious resources from local authorities and domestic violence shelters, who send officers to arrest and incarcerate estranged partners, until they are held accountable and prosecuted for ruining a man’s life and good name, this will not end.
As for women who don’t think this can happen to them, one only needs to remember the Little Rascals Daycare case from the late 1980’s. I believe our courts and college campuses are actively engaged in the same style witch hunt that haunted daycares from the 1980’s and 1990’s, only this time it’s against men. But hey, it’s all about protecting the “victims”. It’s ok if a few innocent men go to jail if the interest of our citizens are protected, right?
Wrong. “Better that ten guilty persons escape than that one innocent suffer” is attributed to Sir William Blackstone (1765). And Martin Luther King Jr. said “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere” and “He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it”.
As for Crystal Mangum, she was arrested in 2011 for the alleged stabbing of her boyfriend. A few days later he died and she was indicted on a murder charge. She is free on bail and awaiting her trial in November of this year. For most of the mainstream media, “domestic violence” was not mentioned concerning her arrest. Why? Ask yourself that question.
Noland Mattocks is an active member of S.A.V.E., Stop Abusive and Violent Environments and N.C.F.M.C., National Coalition for Men, Carolinas. He graduated ECU with a BS in Criminal Justice. He has been a guest on over 12 national radio stations concerning domestic violence issues and also participated in TV interviews in Texas. He is currently coordinating a tour of NC universities to educate students on the dangers of false accusations. To schedule him as a speaker for your group, please call 336-909-5827.